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Emotional regulation for parents of autistic children means learning to stay calm when life feels hard. It’s not about ignoring problem, it’s about handling them differently. When you protect your calm, your child feels safe, seen, and loved.
Parenting and Autism
1. When Panic Hits and You Choose Calm
I was at the hair dresser getting my weekly blow dry. I had just had a beautiful hair wash, head massage and treatment and then the bow dry began. It was so devine. I was feeling so calm and in control.
Only two minutes into it, daycare called, and my heart jumped.
That familiar panic hit fas, the one where your chest tightens, your thoughts race, and your body feels hot all at once.
I was closer to daycare that day. But I didn’t rush out.
I called my husband instead.
He stepped in calmly and handled it with care.
It wasn’t that I didn’t want to help, I just knew that if I left right then, I would have gone into panic mode.
I wouldn’t have been able to think clearly or stay patient.
So, I made a smart, loving choice to protect my calm.
2. Your Calm As A Parent Of An Autistic Child Is Not Selfish
Getting my hair done that day wasn’t selfish. It was how I calmed my body and reset my nervous system. That time helped me breathe, lower my stress, and feel clear again.
When I came home later, I could give my son what he truly needed which was a calm, grounded mum. That’s what emotional regulation is: keeping yourself steady when everything around you feels wobbly.
3. What Calm Really Does for Our Autistic Children
Your calm doesn’t just help you. It helps them.
When you are calm, your child’s body feels it too.
Their breathing slows. Their little shoulders drop.
They feel safe because your calm tells their body, everything is okay.
You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to bring calm energy into moments that feel big.
4. Your Calm Is Part of Their Care Plan
You’re not just their mum, you’re actually part of their care team.
Your wellbeing matters as much as their therapies, routines, and appointments.
When you get the support you need, your child feels it too.
This is why I created ASD Mum Club™
a calm, online space where mums of autistic kids can rest, breathe, and learn how to stay steady through the chaos.
Inside, you’ll find monthly calm sessions, gentle reflection prompts, and a community of mums who get it.
It’s where you can finally exhale and remember you matter too.
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5. Final Thoughts
Emotional regulation for parents of autistic children isn’t about being perfect. It’s about staying grounded when life feels messy. The next time panic hits, pause before you act. It is how you protect your calm, because your calm protects your child.
Written by Renee Firth
Renee Firth helps women stay calm, clear, and in control of their mental health. She shares her real life as a mum to two young boys, one with autism and ADHD. Her words are warm, kind, and encouraging, giving women simple steps to feel stronger and cared for every day.
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This post was about parenting and autism.
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